- Monday, December 17, 2007
- Insignifigantly In Love
Polka Dotted Pickles makes some refreshing insights on commitment and relationships. The observations she found strongly resonate with my own personal beliefs. I see the youth all around me rushing off to bind themselves to some significant other and all they are really doing is playing games. At Thanksgiving it was let loose that the youngest in my family has a boyfriend and she just turned 10 this month. Wow… just wow… That blows my mind.
I’m almost twenty, twice her age, and, by my own decision, I have never had a girlfriend. To commit oneself to such a relationship allows no room for childlike games. Marriage is serious business, guys. *smile* Not only are you gambling with your life, you involve another in the equation as well. What right do I have to pledge my life to another when the life I have is still in its larvae stage? “I love you so much that I’m going to intertwine my life with yours even though I have yet to come to terms with my own.” Because of my selfishness, I will cause you troubles. Such a crime is not easily forgiven.
Not that I’m against having friends of the other sex. I think you’ll miss out a lot if you take such a drastic stance. But starting the courting process - dating - is a signal that you are ready for the level of commitment that it requires and that you have prospects of marriage in mind.
This is something that I bring up every so often and I doubt that it’ll be the last time I touch upon the subject. The pressure that society has placed upon the youth to find your significant other is something that demands frequent reflection upon.
December 18th, 2007 at 1:53 am
Spot on.
December 18th, 2007 at 2:04 pm
You have a very valid point, and I agree but (there is always a but isn’t there) , I dare say it’s a bit more complicated than that. Not that I think you don’t know that, I’m sure you do.
And I might add this before I make my point; I very very much doubt that your sister is in anything more than puppy love. I had a guy I liked at that age too, and he liked me back. Then he moved (thank God!) and yeah….it didn’t last the test of time. Not that you shouldn’t be worried.
But in some cases regardless of curcimstances you can’t let them just walk out of your life. The thought is just too unbearable.
And no, I’m not explaining that at all. I’ve said my peace.
December 18th, 2007 at 7:38 pm
Oh I know. I most certainly didn’t address this topic in anything remotely resembling completeness. I merely took one minor point out from among hundreds.
You have a very good point there. Letting The One walk out of your life… Yeah… that is painful. Dealing with it is indeed unbearable and when you add teenage angst to that, your world just shatters from underneath your feet. I found myself chasing after a girl who I was convinced was The One. But then I also found myself competing with another guy and all I could do was watch as she slowly got further and further from reach. It reached the point where any more effort from me would stop being mere competition but stealing and coming in between two people just isn’t in me. It took me a long while to come to terms that perhaps, just perhaps, she wasn’t the one for me even though my heart ached ever so. In the end that too was probably just a crush (which are very aptly named…). Oh the joys of being an angst-filled teenager. I’m glad I’m past that dark period of emotional turmoil.
I am convinced however that God has someone in mind for me and He’ll present her to me in due time. Even if it takes a sharp kick to the posterior to open my eyes~
As far as my sister goes, I’m not all that worried. What’s a 10 year old going to do? Drive up in his Hondai and elope with my sister? I think not. As my other sister says, the most they’ll do is hold hands and even then… I doubt much of that will be going on either. I’m pretty sure that 10 year olds still strongly believe in such things as cooties. I merely smile and shake my head ever so slightly unlike the second eldest who gets himself all up in a storm just thinking about the idea. Overprotective much? Prolly. As he pretty much has that covered there is no need to add more fuel to the fire from my own actions.
December 19th, 2007 at 10:13 am
Well yeah, when I said be worried I meant like, for how this bodes for the future. *laugh* I can see your brother doing that. *laughs* Okay maybe I find that too funny. But it never ceases to amaze me how much he overreacts. I mean come now.
Okay I’m bad, but I gotta add just a little fuel to that fire, for nothing but my own amusement. But that guy and I did almost kiss. Kris got in the way though. And I definitly didn’t believe in cooties. I was 11 part of that that time though. And 9 for a tiny bit as well, although maybe not I can’t really remember that well, it wasn’t very important in the end. *chuckle* If that comment causes your sister or anyone else grief cuz of “him” feel free to wop me up side the head.
That reminds me. Is it just me who gets teased relentlessly for even looking twice at a guy!?! My middle sister and my mom are soo mean! We reseaved a Christmas card from that guys family and my mom like “ooo, “EJB” look, it’s Ben. ” ” I’ve told you I don’t like him anymore mom!” “But he could be hot now.” “He’s not, I’ve seen him semi recently, he goes to my school or at least did.” But yeah they’re cruel. I almost never tell them when I like a guy anymore. And even my littlest sister teases me now! “ooo “EJB” there’s goes your future boyfriend!” So annoying!, although in that case… I mean just cuz I don’t talk about boys 24/7 like my middle sister doesn’t mean I don’t like guys! I like guys very much so everyone just stop teasing me! *sobs* Oh, and a word to the wise, NEVER KEEP A DIARY!, NEVER, DON’T, JUST DON’T!!! *goes and cries in a corner hugging her knees and every once a while yells “No Kris! Give that back!”*